Last Comic Standing: Love, Judgement and Sexism!

Aida 5/22/14First of all, let me say that I am truly humbled and so grateful for all of the support that I have received for the last couple of weeks. I tell you that it means the world to know that people see you, in a place where you feel like no one knows what the hell you are talking about.  I haven’t blogged in while because real life has been happening and I have been struggling to keep my head above water just to make it another day.  Not what you expect to hear from someone who is on “National Network Television”, as they keep saying.

But hey, listen I am here for that very purpose, I want to be that real person that has real life issues and can be the voice of the every day person that isn’t walking around with a fancy handbag and attending the spa three times a week.  I would love to do that but the reality is that I have to feed my kids, support my mother in anyway that I can and be something to someone other than a tweet or a clever blog post.

I am going to address a few things that I have been reeling from and dealing with for the last few days, I think that some of you comedy bloggers, experts and representatives have it a little twisted when it comes to me.

And anyone that knows me, knows that I will NOT be bullied so I am going to give it to you straight.

I don’t profess this to be law or popular belief, just my point of view.

I read that I wasn’t worthy of being a semi-finalist because I’ve opened for Russell Peters and I used my looks.

Honestly, you guys know nothing about Russell Peters when you dare to say this. In that top 100 there are several comedians that have opened for Russell because he has never forgotten what it feels like to be us.  So get your facts straight because in that list of semi finalists there are a few who have had the opportunity to open for Russell, that doesn’t make us special.  The comedy community is small and connected, where are you going to find three people in the comedy game that don’t know other comedians? Where??

And as far as the looks thing, really??? First of all, thank you, when I went to Asia I gotta tell you that they didn’t make me feel so pretty, it’s all so subjective. Still, I don’t recall anyone ever telling Eddie Murphy to tone it down when he wore those tight ass leather Purple and Red suits for his comedy specials, nobody has ever told Dane Cook not to be sexy.  What gets me is this, we women can’t win for losing!!!  I have been told that I would never make it because I am not overweight, I am not Black, I don’t do jokes about fellatio and anal sex, I’m too old, I am not a man, I am not white, I am too in your face, I am not likable, I am too tall for television, I’m not thin enough (gimme a sec, I’m going through my journal) I have kids and I talk about having kids, I’m not Mexican and the list goes on. Some of those don’t even make sense do they, but they do in the minds of many and that is why people like me have to fight to keep our sanity and individuality in this game.

So instead of having to live a medicated life and allow others to push me into a spiral that will lead me the furthest away from who I truly am, I made a brave decision a few years ago to just be myself and I’m sorry if that doesn’t make you moist.

I will secretly hope that at some point I can count on my fellow ladies to embrace solidarity and do what many groups do and just work through our issues but ultimately together for our own causes…yeah, that would be nice.

“Aida Rodriguez sucks, I can’t believe she made it to the semi finals.  I don’t get her comedy at all.”

That is absolutely fine that you don’t get my comedy, I have chosen a more difficult path in comedy, I know this.  One, I’m a grown up- not your typical early 20’s white male comedian talking about topics that trend on Twitter and clever jokes about having sex with cats that have Cancer.  I get it, I’m not what you are used to seeing but my comedy will not change because it is based on my life and I’m sorry that this is so passe to you.  Comedy is many things to many people and there are many voices out there, you choose what you like and subscribe to that.  BUT WHAT YOU WON’T DO is set the standard for everyone and discredit those that are different from you, for being different than you.  I am so tired of this “cool kids for not being cool kids” bullshit trying to push everyone out who is not doing what they like.  Would you prefer I did jokes about Stephen Hawking, coffee shops and having sex with cats with Cancer? <—This makes me laugh.   Sometimes you cerebral buffs and intellectual bullies sound like that which you allegedly despise: bigots.

The Yellow Dress!

Some people actually believe that I woke up one morning and thought that I would pick out the perfect dress that would equip me to out-do some of the best comedians in the world with my legs!  I wore the yellow because my grandmother loved yellow and sunflowers, I lost her in August to Cancer.  If you zoom in on the lop left of the dress you will also see my uncle’s deacon pin, I lost him in October to a hate crime.  What I took with me on that stage that night was an incredible amount of pain and sorrow that I was ONLY able to work through with the thing I love to do most in this world.  I will leave it at that.

Truth is, I grew up not having the most privileged life, but I’ve never used that as an excuse to attack those who had an easier road than I did.  Nor will I ever diminish someone else’s pain because it didn’t happen in the ghetto.

The “funny” that I respond to, deal in and operate with comes from pain, where I grew up that is how we kept from crying all of the time, getting beat up and sometimes thinking about the jumping off the building you hated to live in.

This was mine, by the way.

“I can’t believe you did that show!”  – One of the most famous and one of my favorite comedians in the game right now.

I love the commentary from the “hardcore comedians” out there that have judged and chastised me for doing a reality show.  Where else am I going to have the opportunity and exposure to create an awareness about myself and my brand of humor???  Enough said, I don’t have to explain, justify or qualify a thing.  Check out the line-ups at your comedy club and count the women, let me know what you come up with.

Truth is, I have a great time doing something that I’ve always wanted to do, I honestly do it because I really love it.  I study, I work hard and I truly respect the Art and Science of Comedy.

Truth is, I don’t expect everyone to drink the  “Aida Kool-Aid”, drink water instead.

Truth is, I’m not going anywhere because this is what I was sent here to do, deal with it.

Oh, and one more thing.  I love dresses, heels, make up and hair do’s.  I’m going to keep wearing them and honoring who I am.  I don’t get to dress up for track meets, debate tourneys and school plays … I dress up for work!

Truth is, I’m truth in a dress, deal with that too!

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37 thoughts on “Last Comic Standing: Love, Judgement and Sexism!

  1. Keep being YOU. That’s all I can say. Just….. keep being YOU. We are not a product to be packaged and sold at another’s liking. And you are beautiful. Why should that be a crime? Ugh.

    1. I have been in comedy 35yrs and one thing I know no matter who you are or what you do in comedy theres going to be people who are going to hate you. if you are in the public eye people are going to hate you The Pope gets hate mail.Jesus is hated do what you do and don’t worry about the haters thats what they want you to do. a very wise man said when asked what his key to success was he said ‘I don’t know what the key to success is but the key to failure is to try and please everybody. I would tell you who said it but I can’t stand that motherf####r.LOL

  2. I think you’re absolutely funny. You are deserving as much as anyone, and Wayans was completely sexist to tell you to tone it down.

    I think you’ll make it to the finals and win it all. You make so many valid points here. I love it. Really, though, who does this bitch think she is? 🙂

    Take it all the way, Aida!

  3. I don’t always agree with every joke a comic plays out, I don’t always laugh at great sets that make me think or just giggle in after thought. ea I dislike ending on a tampon Ms A, but truth in the big light … You have done great things in comedy, on the stage on set and as A WOMAN. I admire the passion, the work ethic, the efforts in making it work over and over and over again. I admire the one who stays true to who and how they are and relate life to a stage a light and a house be it 2, 12 or 30,000 people in the audience to do something obscure these days called “Entertain us”. Comics often use blood sweat and their tears to actually make us laugh. They take their tragic moments to ease our pain and give us an upward view of life or challenge us to think that above all the issue life is and can be the quietest most beautiful moments we know. Everyone wants to judge, have an opinion, or debate but at some point can we enjoy how hard work pays off, and just celebrate ALL Aida has accomplished over so many years of that ethic, and the idea of setting an example as a person, a woman, a mother and celebrate her steps forward as she has painstakingly step up to each stone ahead and congratulate her every stone ahead she takes further because at the end of the day SOMEONE has to SOMEONE will and in this big comedy world she too has EARNED it. Yellow has nothing to do with it it is just a color folks.

  4. Aida you are a unique person !! People who talk about other people and put them down are trying to get attention. They need to look at themselves before talking about someone else. What happened to being positive ? Like always people did not know that you lost your Grandmother in August 2013 and then lost your uncle in October 2013. They where Mother & Son !! Our family has been through a lot this past year. I am very proud of you !! You are a Gorgeous young woman, you looked very beautiful in your yellow dress, and you ROCKED THE MIC !!!!!!! You know you, your Family & Friends know you !! Do not pay attention to these negative people seeking their own attention. Love you with all my heart & soul. Your aunt Carrie

  5. So proud of you Aida for having the courage to “do you” and follow your dreams. To hell with the haters they will always be their tired selves! You, on the other hand, are boldly walking, yellow dress and all, in your purpose fully equipped with brains, talent and beauty! Continue to use every bit of what God gave you! Keep stepping! Keep shining! You don’t owe anyone an explanation for jack! Let their foolishness fuel you as you keep pressing toward your mark! Love you mama!

    1. Thank you lady, I love you. You already know that you are a partner of a unit that I love wholeheartedly and unconditionally. This is a great compliment coming from you because you are a great visionary, writer and human!

  6. Aida, you are beautiful inside and out. I’m not telling you anything you don’t know when I say the people who made negative comments, are in the stands, not on the field. To me, all that matters is being out there. I welcome the support of people who enjoy what I do. I hope they feel uplifted by it but if they don’t, I say (to paraphrase composer Philip Glass): “There are plenty of great comedians out there. Go, listen them. You have my blessing.” I want you to know that as a fan and fellow comedian, I feel uplifted by what you do. I’m glad we get to work together. “Every creative story is different. And yet every creative story is the same: There was nothing, now there is something. It’s almost like magic.” Aida, you are magic.

    1. I fell in love with you upon introduction. You too are beautiful inside and out along with brave and inspiring. Thank you for your kind words and support also and keep telling your story, it moves many!

  7. Nice! Keep being you, funny lady. Wave your flag, shine your light and show your colors. That’s what we are meant to do. I wish you much success and fulfillment!

  8. “The people will speak for me” when you told me that, that’s when I fell in love with you! Do you baby girl!! “The people will speak for you!!”

  9. I love you girl!!! Peto & I send our love and keep doing you!!! Congrats and you deserve nothing but the best…. We miss you my beautiful talented one and only Aida!!

  10. this is amazing , and you are amazing Aida , many comics hate, cause of there own insecurities. But there are many that are behind you and your dreams. You are not alone 🙂 Best wishes chris j

  11. Great job Aida. As a comedian ,writer, and actor you inspire me to continue to do my on thing I have your DVD movies , Your a hustler and lazy people cant handle it. Love your work keep it up.

  12. I love this post. One time a comic ripped me to spreads online cause he didn’t think I was “funny enough” to work with the comic I tour with. The next time we worked cobbs I talked with him after the show and he got to know me. To this day, he has no idea that I read what he wrote. I admire your honesty and admire your strength!

  13. I just saw you on LCS. You got a new fan! Keep doing what you are the way you are. You are absolutely awesome! And come to Boston some time. I will pay to go and see you!!! Truth is, you’re awesome. Don’t live by other people’s rules.

  14. I think you are so funny. you were truly authentic on the show. I loved when you stood up to Wayan on the show. Continue being your beautiful self, wear gorgeous clothes and tell your funny jokes.
    🙂

  15. I was so sad upon watching your last episode of Last Comic Standing that I googled “Last Comic Standing” and “Sexism,” and wound up here. I’m sure most of it got edited out, but it was clear to me that you weren’t getting a fair shake in the group challenge, and at that moment, I felt the gravity of what you must experience as a woman in a male-dominate profession. Please be encouraged that you have cheerleaders out there, and that we are confident that you, along with other female comediennes, are changing the world, one laugh at a time.

  16. This is funny, I’m pretty sure I know you. Based on your writing, I’m sure your stand up is phenomenal. You are entitled to your opinion, I’m sure you’re tearing up the scene. 👏👏👏👏

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